mine is jovit :) have you met yours?

i think i may have... the manboy, hub :)
but i think that mate isn't just one but one at a time,
depending on my need and state...as with a friend,
a soulmate would be of help if you try to be your own's friend/mate too...

richard bach spoke of soulmate very well when he was asked
about it (and his courtship with leslie) -

"A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys,
and keys to fit our locks.
When we feel safe enough to open the locks,
our truest selves step out and we can be completely
and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are
and not for who we’re pretending to be.
Each unveils the best part of the other.
No matter what else goes wrong around us,
with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise.
Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings,
our sense of direction.
When we’re two balloons,
and together our direction is up,
chances are we’ve found the right person.
Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”

... oh well, chances are,
sometimes we are too busy looking for that soulmate
only to realize he/she is it long after he/she is gone. what a waste!